trohmankini:

• it’s okay to eat
• it’s okay to have fat, because it’s natural and it doesn’t make you ugly or unlovable
• stretch marks, scars, moles, etc are totally ok
• your body is wonderful exactly the way it is
• please be kind to yourself
• i love you so much

skellydun:

please be gentle with yourself. you’re trying. if it’s taking you longer than you thought to achieve something or get somewhere that’s okay. try not to compare yourself to others too much because not everyone gets to where they need to be right away. you’re alive that’s what matters. keep trying. you’ll get there.

halalbosnian:

who am I supposed to invite to my wedding when i have like three friends and dislike most of my family?

lovesuggestion:

i want someone to just be happy over me. happy to see me. happy to hear me. happy to know me.

freshlymintedmrs:

when in doubt, go out for pancakes with your husband at ten pm and solve all the world’s mysteries over strong diner coffee

nudityandnerdery:

a-spoon-is-born:

eubalaena:

catrabbitpaws:

emiemipearl:

cartopathy:

fullten:

If you’re in that kind of depression where everything is blurry and days blend into one another, taking a lot of photos of positive things might help. If your pet does something cute, you ate something good, got a high score, you cleaned your room, the weather was nice… I’m not saying this will fix your depression, it’s just a good reminder that you are in fact living regardless of the depression distorting your memory and making your past seem like fog of sadness and nothing else.

i wish someone had told me this a few years ago i don’t remember my late twenties

A super good trick, could be very helpful if you are strugglin with disassociation. A picture with a time stamp on it would give you concrete evidence if there’s something you vaguely remember but aren’t sure if it was real or whatever. I know it’s been helpful for me in the past 👌🏻

This is pretty much why I live my life the way I do. Because long ago I realized that documenting things made memories taste sweeter and I could think back on good moments and feelings and the future seemed less scary because the past was never as bad as it felt at the time. You can handle life, you just gotta convince yourself that you can.

also sync/back up your photos to am online service like Google photos - even if something happens to your phone or you delete a photo, you can find it again later!

Seriously though this is a real thing, and it’s also something you can be too depressed to do. But part of my recovery arc this time around has been making a concerted effort to not only take photos but do so in an interactive way as much as I can. And this is much more feasible for ppl for whom bullshit like “get out more” or “go to the gym three times a week” or “something something social events, blah blah SPORTS” is DOA for like 27 myriad reasons.

It’s a way to participate in life that can be a realistic, ongoing, and effective first step.

This is basically what my instagram is for.

Do I stay herewith my lying boyfriend who keeps promising to get better. Where I’m happy sometimes but also violently angry. We do have good moments and days but I can’t get over the things hes done. Or move back in with my dad? Where I’m extremely unhappy, deal with my nephews and bitch of a sister. Either way I’m gonna have a breakdown. And then I have to thank about my baby.. My heart is breaking at the worst possible time

nicejewishgoy:

i’m here for bipolar positivity. people with a pretty disabling disorder trying to recognize the parts of it that have the potential to be positive for them. i know for me, certain mood states are also very potent creative states. i think that being an emotional and sensitive person has made me a better writer. i also think it’s given me a lot of empathy for other people with mental illnesses, and people in general. as long as i’m not having a debilitating mood episode, i’m glad i have the chance to experience the world this fully. 

i’m also here for bipolar people who don’t think their illness has given them anything positive and who would do anything to feel “normal.” it’s hard being bipolar, and i vacillate between both of these perspectives. the general public doesn’t understand the disorder, and sometimes not even medical professionals do. medications have side effects and nothing works 100%. it’s a pain constantly losing money to this illness, whether it be through mania or through just the daily task of taking (oftentimes expensive) medications. just because i enjoy some parts of my illness doesn’t make it any less of an illness, and i don’t have a monopoly on this chain of thought. 

I’m losing my fucking mind. Ive been away from the house and baby a few times for a couple hours to do grocery shopping or go to the doctors office. Was gonna go hang out with a friend today but SO basically threw a fit. He’s still had the baby most of the day but ive been stuck at the house still. I’m fucking lonely. I need to get out and socialize but that’s hard to do when you have no friends and you’re hardly ever able to get away from the baby.

too-much-random:

I honestly don’t see why so many people bag and judge on teen moms.

Teen moms seriously don’t get a break. From the moment we find out we’re pregnant, we get hate from BOTH sides: 

If we decide to abort: 

• We get hate on for killing a life before it even began. 
• So many people instantly decide to label you as a horrible person 
• People play the adoption card (like that’s a better outlet-argue this if you’re 100000% going to be the one adopting that child)

If we decide to keep the baby:

• We get judged for being a young mom because apparently we could’ve waited (because EVERY teen mom decided on having their child now right?)
  
• People bag on you for bringing a child into this world even though you’re not financially ready to give them everything they need/want
• Everyone blames you for reaping the government of benefits.

THINGS TO KNOW ABOUT YOUNG MOMS WHO HAVE EITHER ABORTED/KEPT THEIR BABY:

1. They made their decision for a reason. THEY DO NOT OWE YOU AN EXPLANATION.
   
2. [If she aborted] She did so with not only her future in mind but the baby’s as well.
3. [If she kept the baby] She is more than aware of what she’s getting herself into.
4. We’re just like any other woman out there who have aborted/gave birth to a child.
5. For those who hate on young teens for aborting just because she’s young and is “doing it for the wrong reasons”; what makes her different from a 30 year old woman who aborts? Besides age, not very much.

TL:DR Stop hating on young moms

to-the-mountains-we-go:

If someone tells you your baby is strapped into their car seat wrong, it’s because they care.

That’s all there is to it. Not because they hate you or have it out for you or want to upset you or embarrass you. It’s because they want your kid to survive because the pain of losing one is unimaginable and possibly preventable if you take the proper precautions.

It makes me so sad when people don’t take it seriously. Care about your child enough to listen to the friends who care about you.

Should I have my two month old on a routine yet or no?